Tag Archives: stepparent
Umm, the kids don’t come first (from Skepticlawyer)
A snippet from a fascinating, stepfamily-relevant new post over at Skepticlawyer: An oft-repeated mantra, everywhere from law courts to dating agencies, is that ‘children come first’. No-one ever provides any argument to back this assertion, and attempts (by me) to … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life
Casting shadows
I recently received a question from Vicki about being stepmother to children whose mother has died, and her words got me thinking. While it is tempting to imagine that stepparenting would be a whole lot easier without the deep shadow … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Small delights
I did the school run for the Boys by myself today and will be again tomorrow, since the Lovely Man has two early starts at work. By “school run” I don’t just mean the drive in to school but the … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Food, Kids, Me, Stepfamily Life
Shades of beige
Monday was the first night of our regular week with the kids. As usual, Boy A was fairly hostile towards me: he refused to respond to my hello, and every comment I made (not to him – I don’t waste … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Kids, Lovely Man, Speaking Up Challenge, Stepfamily Life
Life listing for stepmothers
For people who haven’t encountered the term, life listing is, predictably enough, the process of writing down the goals you wish to experience or achieve over the course of your life. A different perspective on it might be to ask … Continue reading
Filed under Me, Random, Resources, Stepfamily Life, Travel
Happy Stepmother’s Day
Yep, the Sunday after Mother’s Day is apparently (and unofficially) Stepmother’s Day. Though, as the Lovely Man said when I told him what day it was, I don’t think we’d better hold our collective breath waiting for an annual public … Continue reading
Filed under Linkety-Link, Stepfamily Life
Stepmother mantras
Reading this post from stepmama metamorphoses (who has been so inspiring as she works through the process of stepping back from her husband’s ex’s dramas) as well as Sherri’s weekly affirmations at Too Many Toasters, I got thinking about the … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Counselling, Family, Kids, Me, Stepfamily Life
Making rules…
…but for pity’s sake don’t even think of calling them “family rules”! I can almost hear the reaction now, echoed back from eleventy million step households: “You’re not my family and you don’t make rules for me!” [Sarcasm switches off] … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Counselling, Kids, Lovely Man, Me, Stepfamily Life
No place like home
Another week in stepmother land is over. I’m home, back in my city after what feels like many weeks but has actually been a little over three. The Lovely Man, on the other hand, worked out mid-last month that he … Continue reading
Filed under About Us, Kids, Lovely Man, Me, Stepfamily Life, Travel
A sticky one
Boy C, in the car on our way home from dinner last night, within earshot of Boy A, Boy B and the Lovely Man: B, I want to ask you a question? Me: Sure. What do you want to know? … Continue reading
Filed under Kids, Me, Stepfamily Life
