Tag Archives: stepchildren
The shame of exposure (via Stepsleuth)
Stepsleuth writes one of the most thoughtful, well-informed stepmother blogs around. I always enjoy her writing and ideas; this post particularly resonated, though, since I’ve become so accustomed to the slow-up-and-down-eyes of first family wives when we are introduced and … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Linkety-Link, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Warning signs for stepmothers
Ask a stepmother what advice she’d give to another woman deciding whether to get involved with a man with kids, and the cliché is that she’ll screech: Run! Run like the wind! I’ve been tempted to trot this one out … Continue reading
Filed under Counselling, Linkety-Link, Stepfamily Life, The Ex, What I Wish I'd Known
Meditations on conflict
A recent peek into my blog stats showed up this search string: “killer care bear” And this: “vicious care bear” And my favourite: “care bears with guns” As a mediator, I know that a “care bear” conflict style (often called … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Linkety-Link, Resources, Stepfamily Life, The Search String Diaries
Umm, the kids don’t come first (from Skepticlawyer)
A snippet from a fascinating, stepfamily-relevant new post over at Skepticlawyer: An oft-repeated mantra, everywhere from law courts to dating agencies, is that ‘children come first’. No-one ever provides any argument to back this assertion, and attempts (by me) to … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life
More on Marrying the Wrong Person (via Marriage Gems)
Following on from my post yesterday Do you ever think your partner is Mr Wrong? is Lori Lowe’s sequel article More on Marrying the Wrong Person. Lori’s Marriage Gems blog is a fabulous resource, and a timely reminder for stepmothers about … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Linkety-Link, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Do you ever think your partner is Mr Wrong?
Sorry – random, I know. Yes, and maybe even a tiny bit sexist. Not at all fair comment on the Lovely Man, either. Anyway, Lori Lowe’s fabulous article We All Married the Wrong Person on her blog Marriage Gems is hugely … Continue reading
Filed under Remarriage, Self-Care Challenge, Stepfamily Life
Speak Up Week Challenge – first check-in
The Speak Up Week challenge continues. Our last few days with the Boys were spent taking them interstate to visit the Lovely Man’s extended family. I find travelling with the kids a real “hot button” time when the biological force field … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Lovely Man, Speaking Up Challenge, Stepfamily Life, Travel
Quote for the Day: Guilt
“Guilt is [a] menacing emotion [in remarriage and stepfamily life]. Whether it relates to decisions you made or circumstances your children have been forced to endure through no fault of your own, guilt is debilitating if we allow it to … Continue reading
Filed under Quote Of The Day, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Disengaging
Disengaging is not a new concept in step-land. But it was new to me when I first came across some articles a few months back. At that time, I was trying trying trying to get the Lovely Man’s kids, and … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Food, Kids, Lovely Man, Me, Stepfamily Life, What I Wish I'd Known
The Unnegotiables
Boy A once described something as “unnegotiable” – I’ve never forgotten the clumsy word. A brilliant post from Urban Stepmom got me thinking about what is “unnegotiable” for me. In the past, I’ve tended to put up and shut up a … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Kids, Stepfamily Life
