Tag Archives: loyalty bind
Casting shadows
I recently received a question from Vicki about being stepmother to children whose mother has died, and her words got me thinking. While it is tempting to imagine that stepparenting would be a whole lot easier without the deep shadow … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Disengaging
Disengaging is not a new concept in step-land. But it was new to me when I first came across some articles a few months back. At that time, I was trying trying trying to get the Lovely Man’s kids, and … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Food, Kids, Lovely Man, Me, Stepfamily Life, What I Wish I'd Known
Divided loyalties
Loyalty conflicts are perhaps the key to the challenging nature of life in a stepfamily. Loyalty binds of various kinds for kids, a sense of loyalty imbalanced or even betrayed for step-parents, divided loyalties for repartnered parents. Recently, I read … Continue reading
Filed under Counselling, Stepfamily Life, Writing
Catching dreams
So, with just a couple of blips, my last week with the Boys turned out to be a good one. I continued to focus on the strengths in my relationships with Boys B and C and to give Boy A … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Kids, Me, Stepfamily Life
Focusing on the strengths – followup
The Lovely Man and I flew in to the Boys’ city yesterday, and all day I was feeling anxious about collecting them, about what they might do or say in the throes of Transition Fever that would be hurtful or … Continue reading
Filed under Kids, Lovely Man, Stepfamily Life, Me, Family, Self-Care Challenge
