Tag Archives: depression
Super Stepmother Syndrome
Kela Price, founder of Today’s Modern Family is a one-woman trove of family and relationship resources, with a strong focus on stepfamilies. Kela’s recent article on Super Stepmom Syndrome will, I’m sure, hit a few nerves. If you’re a woman … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Meditations on conflict
A recent peek into my blog stats showed up this search string: “killer care bear” And this: “vicious care bear” And my favourite: “care bears with guns” As a mediator, I know that a “care bear” conflict style (often called … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Linkety-Link, Resources, Stepfamily Life, The Search String Diaries
Just asking
Does anyone else find it really, really difficult when your partner wants you to look through photos of his kids as babies that were taken when his first family was intact? Mixed in are inevitably photos of the kids’ mum, … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Kids, Lovely Man, Random, Stepfamily Life, The Ex
Stepfamily Roles
Role ambiguity is described in stepfamily research and literature as one of the biggest hurdles for stepfamily members, and especially for stepmothers. Basically, many of us aren’t sure who or what we are “meant” to be in our new families … Continue reading
Filed under Resources, Stepfamily Life
Shades of beige
Monday was the first night of our regular week with the kids. As usual, Boy A was fairly hostile towards me: he refused to respond to my hello, and every comment I made (not to him – I don’t waste … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Kids, Lovely Man, Speaking Up Challenge, Stepfamily Life
The Getaway
I’m spending a couple of much-needed days away at the moment while the Lovely Man takes a week’s “Boy Time” in the kids’ city. As much as I support the Boys getting time alone with their Dad, it wasn’t a … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Self-Care Challenge, Stepfamily Life
Normal transmission will resume shortly
I’ve been on unplanned blog downtime for a month or so now. Life has felt very overwhelming. Kid stuff, ex stuff, relationship stuff, me stuff, Lovely Man stuff, our incredibly dense schedule, and the endless travel and separation from the … Continue reading
Speak Up Week Challenge
A few months on from my adventures in extreme self-care, it’s challenge time again. The challenge concept is a useful one. Especially the accountability factor – there’s nothing like thinking hmmm, what am I going to post as today’s self-care? to motivate … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Speaking Up Challenge, Stepfamily Life
The missing link
I generally think of myself as a fairly well informed stepmum. I read the books, I follow the blogs, I’m newly subscribed to the magazine (which is great – thanks Brenda!). But there’s something I miss doing, time after time, … Continue reading
Filed under Me, Self-Care Challenge, Stepfamily Life, Writing
