Tag Archives: co-parenting
Recognising (the dynamics of) high conflict divorce
I recently found a fascinating article by Dr Kathy J. Marshack about high-conflict divorce. Although she primarily talks about high conflict divorce with a narcissist, I think her ideas are broadly applicable to other high-conflict personality types. For me, what … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Divorce, Linkety-Link, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life, The Ex
Is there really an epidemic of BPD among separated parents? (from In The Blender)
A couple of days ago, I reposted an article from Suite 101 called How Narcissists Abuse Children During Divorce in response to the huge weight of discussion in the online step-parenting community about personality disorders like Narcissistic Personality Disorder and … Continue reading
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Resources: How Narcissists Abuse Children During Divorce
Many, many separated family members describe the difficulty of co-parenting with high-conflict ex-spouses who they believe suffer from personality disorders, most often Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder. Of course, few of these “diagnoses” will ever be confirmed by medical … Continue reading
Filed under Linkety-Link, Resources
Cupcakery
On Thursday night I made four dozen cupcakes. Boy C wanted to take treats to school to share with his whole class; while I didn’t have the energy to churn out enough cupcakes from our somewhat makeshift kitchen in the … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Food, Stepfamily Life, The Ex
Storm’s coming
You know how maestro piano players are sometimes described as playing a piece of music “stormily”? The Lovely Man is in the study at the moment, and I can tell he is writing his email response to the Boys’ Mum’s … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Lovely Man, Stepfamily Life, The Ex
Stepfamily Roles
Role ambiguity is described in stepfamily research and literature as one of the biggest hurdles for stepfamily members, and especially for stepmothers. Basically, many of us aren’t sure who or what we are “meant” to be in our new families … Continue reading
Filed under Resources, Stepfamily Life
Deesha Philyaw, crazy schedules and humble pie
I have an assignment due. (Because my MacBook is actually magic, I can hear what you’re thinking right now – yes, I am procrastinating.) So rather than do the responsible student thing and not post at all, here are a … Continue reading
Filed under About Us, Communication, Linkety-Link, Stepfamily Life
Under the surface
On our overseas trip earlier this year, the Lovely Man and I met up with some friends, a couple who’ve been together about the same length of time as us, F & G. Like us, they are a few years … Continue reading
Filed under Counselling, Random, Stepfamily Life, Travel
They’re gone
“Handover Syndrome” – kids behaving badly before, during and after transitions between homes Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Stepfamily Life
