Category Archives: Writing

The followup – How Much Should We Change Our Lives? by Urban Stepmom

I recently posted about Urban Stepmom’s dilemma regarding how much we should expect ourselves (and each other) to sacrifice for our stepkids. Wednesday Martin describes this set of assumptions and pressures (internal and external) as StepMartyr Syndrome. It’s an interesting … Continue reading

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Filed under Family, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life, Writing

Top 10 Remarriage and Stepfamily Blogs for 2010

Yay! I’m thrilled to announce (a bit late – as ever, there’s been lots going on here) that Stepmum Of The Year picked up a gong from the fantastic stepfamily resource site reMarriage Works as one of their Top 10 … Continue reading

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Filed under Linkety-Link, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life, Writing

Protected: The Way Forward

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Filed under Communication, Stepfamily Life, Writing

Going on lockdown

Dear Selfish Stepmom, I understand that you’ve gone on lockdown for privacy reasons, but I’ve really missed reading your story. Could you please invite me as a reader? stepmumoftheyear at me dot com Thanks! B

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The search string diaries bite back

Trawling through three months of blog statistics yesterday, I discovered what may well be the strangest search string ever. (Subtext here: with the current mix of three rampant Boys in my loungeroom, the Lovely Man’s father and stepmother arriving this … Continue reading

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Filed under Family, Food, Kids, Stepfamily Life, The Search String Diaries, Writing

The Evil Stepmother strikes again

I’m in the Boys’ city once more, and struggling mightily [cue bored sigh from readers] with Boy A and his apparently immutable loyalty binds. In fact, right now I’m hiding out in our bedroom taking some sanity time while the … Continue reading

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Filed under Kids, Stepfamily Life, Writing

Search string #53861

I do get a giggle or twenty from the search strings that pop up in my WordPress statistics from time to time. Lately I’ve seen the usual sorts of stuff: step mum of the year, stepmother disengage toaster – presumably … Continue reading

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The question

My sweet, concerned Dad asked me a question the other day, in the aftermath of my first meeting with the Lovely Man’s ex-wife. Dad: So, uh, do you see things working out with you and the Lovely Man long-term, B? … Continue reading

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Filed under Communication, Family, Kids, Lovely Man, Me, Stepfamily Life, Writing

Bookalicious

Oh my, but there’s a motherload of stepfamily books heading my way. Nurse, it’s time for my shot of Vitamin Step Literature. This order is so bitchingly huge that Amazon has comped me express shipping on many of the individual … Continue reading

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Divided loyalties

Loyalty conflicts are perhaps the key to the challenging nature of life in a stepfamily. Loyalty binds of various kinds for kids, a sense of loyalty imbalanced or even betrayed for step-parents, divided loyalties for repartnered parents. Recently, I read … Continue reading

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Filed under Counselling, Stepfamily Life, Writing