Category Archives: Kids
Stepfamily wedding vow suggestions. Anyone? Help!
So, the Lovely Man and I are getting married. And he wants to include something in the ceremony that includes and maybe even speaks directly to the Boys. It’s hard to navigate. So I’m cautious. There are a few “nots”. … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life
Bite Back
I was over at Family In Bloom reading Tulip’s latest about how her husband put a really powerful and appropriate boundary in place for her pre-teen stepdaughter, Daisy. Go read her post, if you haven’t already – the way Tulip’s husband handled the situation … Continue reading
Filed under Kids, Stepfamily Life
Quotes from BoyLand
I’ve now spent a full week with the Boys since the Lovely Man told them about our engagement. It felt like a long week. As we expected, they didn’t have a huge amount to say about us getting married. After … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Kids, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life
The Shake Up
The Boys have been in Our City for the holidays for nearly a week, and it’s past time for a shake up of their rules and responsibilities. Some things they’re doing well; dishes are mostly getting put into the dishwasher … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Counselling, Kids, Lovely Man, Stepfamily Life
Holidays?
I am absolutely trashed with tiredness. It’s been a busy few days; the Boys’ arrival, visitors, including a child who gets up four-plus times for the toilet each night, a midnight replay of some Grand Final or other that the … Continue reading
Filed under Kids, Stepfamily Life
The countdown
Pillows, mattresses and doonas are sunned, aired and smoothed. Beds are made up – navy and white star bedspreads, varied with sky blue, ruby red and burnt orange sheets. The colours burn; they’re beautiful. Cupboards are emptied, ready for small socks, … Continue reading
Filed under Kids, Stepfamily Life
Umm, the kids don’t come first (from Skepticlawyer)
A snippet from a fascinating, stepfamily-relevant new post over at Skepticlawyer: An oft-repeated mantra, everywhere from law courts to dating agencies, is that ‘children come first’. No-one ever provides any argument to back this assertion, and attempts (by me) to … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life
Casting shadows
I recently received a question from Vicki about being stepmother to children whose mother has died, and her words got me thinking. While it is tempting to imagine that stepparenting would be a whole lot easier without the deep shadow … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Just asking
Does anyone else find it really, really difficult when your partner wants you to look through photos of his kids as babies that were taken when his first family was intact? Mixed in are inevitably photos of the kids’ mum, … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Kids, Lovely Man, Random, Stepfamily Life, The Ex
Seeing tail lights
It was so GOOD to arrive back in our city after the last five days with the Boys. As one commenter suggested, it was definitely a relief to see tail lights at the end of this particular trip! Interestingly, Boy A’s … Continue reading
Filed under Kids, Me, Stepfamily Life
