Category Archives: Family
Stepfamily wedding vow suggestions. Anyone? Help!
So, the Lovely Man and I are getting married. And he wants to include something in the ceremony that includes and maybe even speaks directly to the Boys. It’s hard to navigate. So I’m cautious. There are a few “nots”. … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life
Stepfamilies ARE different (and complex)
I got a serve recently for commenting that stepfamilies are different from first families. Pretty obvious stuff, some might think. But no, I was firmly told off for saying that stepfamilies aren’t “as good” as first families. When it comes to … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
News
I know it’s been a while, and I’m not even going to apologise. Nope, not sorry! The last month or so has been a really important recuperation time; it’s been so vital for me to take a break from stepmummery … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Lovely Man, Me, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life, Travel
The shame of exposure (via Stepsleuth)
Stepsleuth writes one of the most thoughtful, well-informed stepmother blogs around. I always enjoy her writing and ideas; this post particularly resonated, though, since I’ve become so accustomed to the slow-up-and-down-eyes of first family wives when we are introduced and … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Linkety-Link, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Meditations on conflict
A recent peek into my blog stats showed up this search string: “killer care bear” And this: “vicious care bear” And my favourite: “care bears with guns” As a mediator, I know that a “care bear” conflict style (often called … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Linkety-Link, Resources, Stepfamily Life, The Search String Diaries
Umm, the kids don’t come first (from Skepticlawyer)
A snippet from a fascinating, stepfamily-relevant new post over at Skepticlawyer: An oft-repeated mantra, everywhere from law courts to dating agencies, is that ‘children come first’. No-one ever provides any argument to back this assertion, and attempts (by me) to … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life
Casting shadows
I recently received a question from Vicki about being stepmother to children whose mother has died, and her words got me thinking. While it is tempting to imagine that stepparenting would be a whole lot easier without the deep shadow … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Kids, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
More on Marrying the Wrong Person (via Marriage Gems)
Following on from my post yesterday Do you ever think your partner is Mr Wrong? is Lori Lowe’s sequel article More on Marrying the Wrong Person. Lori’s Marriage Gems blog is a fabulous resource, and a timely reminder for stepmothers about … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Linkety-Link, Remarriage, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Just asking
Does anyone else find it really, really difficult when your partner wants you to look through photos of his kids as babies that were taken when his first family was intact? Mixed in are inevitably photos of the kids’ mum, … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Kids, Lovely Man, Random, Stepfamily Life, The Ex
The followup – How Much Should We Change Our Lives? by Urban Stepmom
I recently posted about Urban Stepmom’s dilemma regarding how much we should expect ourselves (and each other) to sacrifice for our stepkids. Wednesday Martin describes this set of assumptions and pressures (internal and external) as StepMartyr Syndrome. It’s an interesting … Continue reading →
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Filed under Family, Remarriage, Stepfamily Life, Writing
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