Sorry – random, I know. Yes, and maybe even a tiny bit sexist.
Not at all fair comment on the Lovely Man, either.
And seriously, in a stepfamily situation complete with rampant stress and over-the-phone expletives and mashed potato flying about at mealtimes, who hasn’t?
Lori suggests that marrying/partnering with the right person is actually a question of commitment and not of finding the mythical “perfect match”.
Stepfamilies understand commitment in a uniquely powerful way, I think.
Certainly, one of the most profoundly positive aspects of life in a stepfamily is the enormous reserve of commitment so many of us find in ourselves and our partners; commitment to caring for and nurturing children not our own, to sticking with our partners in the face of enormous challenges from kids and exes, to educating and equipping ourselves for stepfamily life.
Sometimes, that commitment may need a slight refocus – an important part of your commitment to your stepfamily should include a commitment to nurturing yourself, lest you turn into a Disappearing Woman.
How does your commitment show in your stepfamily?
How can you commit to caring for yourself better?