Monthly Archives: April 2010
Quote for the Day: Guilt
“Guilt is [a] menacing emotion [in remarriage and stepfamily life]. Whether it relates to decisions you made or circumstances your children have been forced to endure through no fault of your own, guilt is debilitating if we allow it to … Continue reading
Filed under Quote Of The Day, Resources, Stepfamily Life
Search string #53861
I do get a giggle or twenty from the search strings that pop up in my WordPress statistics from time to time. Lately I’ve seen the usual sorts of stuff: step mum of the year, stepmother disengage toaster – presumably … Continue reading
Filed under Random, The Search String Diaries, Writing
Deesha Philyaw, crazy schedules and humble pie
I have an assignment due. (Because my MacBook is actually magic, I can hear what you’re thinking right now – yes, I am procrastinating.) So rather than do the responsible student thing and not post at all, here are a … Continue reading
Filed under About Us, Communication, Linkety-Link, Stepfamily Life
Stepmother mantras
Reading this post from stepmama metamorphoses (who has been so inspiring as she works through the process of stepping back from her husband’s ex’s dramas) as well as Sherri’s weekly affirmations at Too Many Toasters, I got thinking about the … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Counselling, Family, Kids, Me, Stepfamily Life
Under the surface
On our overseas trip earlier this year, the Lovely Man and I met up with some friends, a couple who’ve been together about the same length of time as us, F & G. Like us, they are a few years … Continue reading
Filed under Counselling, Random, Stepfamily Life, Travel
Star-crossed lovers?
One night during our recent Easter holiday with the Boys at my parents’ beach shack, the Lovely Man decided it would be fun to take them out for a traditional country-town Chinese meal, complete with lurid plum sauce and deep-fried … Continue reading
Filed under Family, Food, Kids, Random, Stepfamily Life
Stepfamily one-liners
Inspired by The Smirking Cat, I’ve been reflecting again about the shirty things people say over-and-over to stepparents (and separated parents). When members of The Great Ignorant spit these babies out, I’m generally too befuddled and irritated to come up … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Random, Stepfamily Life
House Rules – final version
House Rules Words We speak courteously and respectfully. No running each other down. We call people only what they want to be called. When somebody’s talking to us, we listen and don’t interrupt. We say please and thank you. Actions … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Kids, Stepfamily Life
Draft house rules – your thoughts, please!
Thanks for all your input – it’s really helpful to know that I’m not developing into some controlling psycho-Nazi with a penchant for making the Boys stand at attention while singing a family anthem of my own composition each morning. … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Family, Food, Kids, Lovely Man, Me, Stepfamily Life
Making rules…
…but for pity’s sake don’t even think of calling them “family rules”! I can almost hear the reaction now, echoed back from eleventy million step households: “You’re not my family and you don’t make rules for me!” [Sarcasm switches off] … Continue reading
Filed under Communication, Counselling, Kids, Lovely Man, Me, Stepfamily Life
